“I’m not giving up. He would be upset and that is the last thing I want from him. I told the doctors to not give up on him because he does not play with quitters.” – Muscogee (Creek) citizen and Oske Lowe’s mother, Nancy Randall
Randall does not see ‘quit’ in her son
BETHANY, Okla. — Muscogee (Creek) citizen Oske Lowe has always been a competitor. Throughout his 18 years of life, he has always pushed himself to improve in academics and in sports.
“He has always had that drive in him,” Oske’s mom Nancy Randall said. “Always competitive.”
One night in September 2016, Oske complained of having headaches during a Holdenville High School football game. His mother remembers that he played up until the fourth quarter.
“He told the coach he had a headache,” Nancy said. “He did a couple more plays and his headache got worse.”
The headache kept getting worse, so his coach told him to sit down and have the trainer look at him. His father, Russell Lowe, went to see him and soon his mother was told to come down too.
Nancy said that Oske can take pain, tolerate it and keep playing. Eventually the pain was more excruciating to where he needed to be transported to the hospital.
“He told me that his right hand was numb,” Nancy said. “The EMT’s were there so I told him that he needs to go.”
Oske’s father and the trainer had to carry him to the ambulance. It was then that Oske collapsed.
“He was not even taken into the hospital,” Nancy said. “They kept him in the ambulance so he could be flown to OU Medical Center.”
He had a subdural hematoma, which is a collection of blood outside the brain usually caused by a head injury. Oske had to have surgery to remove the left side of his skull to get the blood clot out.
“We didn’t know he had a blood clot,” Nancy said.
Nancy said that it was not a helmet-to-helmet hit in the game, but could be anything that happened, even a hard sneeze.
“We are not sure how long he had that headache,” she said.
Nancy said that Oske did not like quitting, and did not approve of it when he played. If there was anything he did, quitting was not an option.
When the doctors gave his family the diagnosis, they knew it was going to be hard, but knew he was not going to quit on them, so they could not quit either.
Nancy explained to the doctors that he had always been athletic and been a part of teams. She told them that the doctors are his team now and no one gives up.
“I’m not giving up,” she said. “He would be upset and that is the last thing I want from him. I told the doctors to not give up on him because he does not play with quitters.”
A few months later, Oske is being cared for at the Children’s Center Rehabilitation Hospital in Bethany.
Although he is 18-years-old, the board at the hospital allowed Oske to stay so he can get treatment.
“It is a blessing because he gets his therapies and his care,” Nancy said.
She said Oske’s days are different and he has good and bad ones. She said there are days when he hurts from his body being stiff.
“It hurts him to move,” Nancy said.
Oske goes through physical, occupational and speech therapy at least three – five days a week. Activity aides show up and help him with range of motion.
“He does not move on command,” Nancy said. “He moves when he wants to.”
She said that the family travels back and forth from Holdenville to Bethany a few times each week.
“Oske has three younger brothers and one is a sophomore,” Nancy said. “We go watch him play.”
The younger brothers are in first and third grades, and their games are on Saturday.
“We travel back and forth for their activities,” Nancy said.
She feels that Oske knows what is being said or who is in the room. When he has his family show up, especially his younger brothers, he perks up.
“You can tell he is very excited when he knows his brothers are here,” Nancy said. “He follows their voices and smiles. He rarely smiles.”
Nancy said that they are looking forward to the day when they can bring Oske home. They are currently getting the house ready so he can live there.
“There are a few things that they (doctors) want to look at and setup appointments,” she said. “Those will need to be done before he can go home.”
Nancy said their house has to be remodeled. They are turning their garage into a bedroom because it is the only area big enough for Oske’s bed.
“We have to prepare for all his equipment,” she said. “His feeding machine, his wheelchair, and he is going to need a lift. So we are getting a room to accommodate all that.”
Nancy said she does not hate the sport he was playing when this happened. She is not very sure how the headache developed.
“He played all sports,” she said. “It could have happened at some other time.”
Nancy said the support she has been getting from everyone is overwhelming.
From his friends and the community of Holdenville to players and coaches from the University of Oklahoma Sooners, all have shown support for Oske.
“I think about that all the time,” Nancy said. “How can I thank everyone?”
She said whether it is wearing his t-shirt or his arm-band, she cannot thank everyone for the support that she had been getting. She says the financial support from various communities and churches has been a blessing.
“If there is someway I can tell each and every person, ‘thank you,’ I would,” Nancy said.
She believes that prayers have been a big help.
“My family and I believe it is prayers that have gotten us this far,” Nancy said. “We ask everyone to keep praying. God is number one in this whole thing.”
Nancy said she wants everyone to know Oske as a really great person, athlete, brother, son and friend.
“A lot of people know who he is already. Not just because of what happened but because of how he is. Plus when they hear his name they know it is a name that is unusual so they know him or of him that way.
“When he played sports, he had a lot of heart. He gave everything that he had when he played,” she said.
Nancy knows it will be a long road to recovery, but she said there is no stopping in her son, so she knows that everyone who knows him and are close to the family are not stopping either.
“We are looking forward to the one day when he will start communicating with us,” she said. “We are waiting for when he starts talking and doing what he does.”
Oske is of the Hotvle (Wind) clan.